What I’m Most Excited (and Nervous) About On The Journey To “I DO”

 

I can’t believe I am less than 40 days away from my wedding day…#TuckertakesDaye #TuckHerForLife 💍

Every time I say it out loud, I have to pause and just take it in. Because honestly? After everything — the waiting, the seasons of doubt, the prayers, the “God, is this even real?” moments — to be here, on the other side of all of that, standing at the door of a new chapter… it still feels surreal.

If I’m being honest, we knew from December that we would be getting married based on the way our courtship was blossoming. We didn’t want a long engagement and that decision was very intentional. We actually did a few pre-engagement counseling sessions with our Pastors before we were even engaged, because we wanted to be wise about navigating the journey to marriage, not just romantic about it. We felt God was leading us clearly and we didn’t want to delay what He had already confirmed.

Plus, let me just be transparent with you for a second… I lowkey was also burning okay 😩 and I was not trying to extend that purity test longer than necessary. Cover eyes*😂

Let’s Be Real About the Planning Though…

Mr. Tucker is more easygoing than I am with some of the wedding planning stuff (sometimes), except he is farr more fussy about decoration details than I am.  Anyway, throughout this entire process, his one consistent message has been “The most important thing is that God is glorified and that the day is about US”. Meanwhile, I am over here like… but what about the flow? The timeline? The details? The budget? 

Listen… the planner in me mapped out every moment of my wedding day in my note app for months. And while I genuinely know the day won’t be perfect, my deepest prayer is that it will be beautiful, fun and filled with God’s presence. Because that is the only version of “perfect” that actually matters.

Now… the guest list? That thing stressed me out for a solid few months.  I went back and forth on the bridal party and whether I wanted one.  And if you know me, you know I am not the kind of person who likes to be indecisive, so this was a whole experience for me. Only thing I was sure about was that I wanted to get married in a church. 

We also made the decision to have no reception and I want to be clear about why, because I know people have questions. It wasn’t just about money; it was about priority. We wanted a life after the wedding. We wanted a honeymoon that felt like a real celebration. We wanted to move into our new home without debt trailing behind us. So we made the decision early: debt-free wedding, short planning timeline, and we are going to prioritize what matters. And honestly? That decision gave US peace.

What I Am Most Excited About

Okay listen… where do I even start? Because this section could be its own blog post 😂

Let me begin with something that is happening before the wedding day even arrives — my bridal shower festivities.  My girls are trying to surprise me and honestly, I am pretending I don’t know anything 🤣. I mean I don’t know the details, but I just know my people and whatever they are cooking up, I already know it’s going to be special. The fact that the people who love me are pouring into this season with me… I don’t take that lightly at all. 

Then there’s my girls in their dresses. I cannot wait to see them looking beautiful and radiant on the day. There is something about seeing the women and girls you love all dressed up and standing with you on one of the biggest days of your life that just hits differently. Let’s see if I will cry before I reach the aisle…  

And speaking of the aisle… 

I am looking forward to my father, Christopher, walking me down the aisle:-) He will act like he’s not super happy but I know he is. Plus, he really likes Mr. Tucker for me. 

My nephews and nieces too — I need everyone to know that those babies are going to be the most dapper, most precious little humans in the room and I cannot wait. I already know my heart will be full just looking at them. And then there is something that makes this day feel even bigger than just a wedding… my family will be together for the first time in a very long time. That alone is something. It’s not just a celebration of a marriage; it’s a reunion of people I love, all in one room, for one moment. God knew exactly what He was doing when He ordained this day.

Oh…  and the honeymoon is booked ✈️ I cannot wait to share where we are going… just know it is going to be everything. Wink.

But beyond all of the beautiful moments and the festivities and the details, I’ve been looking forward to what excites me most, at the core of it all, is not just the day. It’s the life after it.

I’m excited to wake up and do life with someone who has been steady when I was anxious, grounded when I was spiraling and genuinely the most caring soul who makes my heart safe. I’m excited for the covenant. Not just the ceremony, not just the dress, not just the beautiful moments we will capture — but the daily, intentional choosing of each other. The building… The growing… The purpose we get to walk out together.

I’m excited to stop saying “my fiancé” and finally say my husband… And honestly? I’m excited to see how God moves on that day. I have done everything I know to do in the preparation. I’ve prayed, I’ve planned, I’ve counseled, I’ve submitted and now I get to trust Him with the rest.

What I Am Most Nervous About

Okay, I’m going to be honest with you because that’s what this space is for.

I am nervous about letting go on the day itself. The planner in me wants to simultaneously be fully present in every emotional and sacred moment and also manage the run of show from the inside. And those two things cannot coexist. So… I am actively praying through that tension.

Next, I am a bit concerned about the provision needed in such a short time. As someone with faith being my primary spiritual gift… I am not worried, but definitely pensive and prayerful. Even though we are not doing a reception, the wedding is still more than US$10,000 (not including our honeymoon). So, I pray you will join me in prayer for God’s provision and miracle and I am looking forward to writing a blog about how God showed up for us after the wedding. 

Then, there’s something completely outside of my control that I need to just fully surrender to God… the weather 😩

We are getting married in the summer, which means the heat is a very real concern. I am already mentally preparing for what that means for my hair, my makeup, my guests, all of it. But beyond the heat, I am genuinely praying that rain stays far away from us and that no hurricane decides to make a surprise appearance on our wedding day. Lord, please.

Listen…  I say that from a place of experience, because a hurricane hit right in the middle of July when I was supposed to be going to Italy and pushed my entire trip back by a few days. The stress of that situation was something else. So I know firsthand how quickly weather can disrupt everything you planned. I truly don’t want that experience again, especially not on my wedding day.  Jesus…. we are trusting You with the forecast!! 

More than the logistics, I am nervous in the way that you are nervous when you understand the weight of something. Marriage is a sacred and serious commitment. It is a covenant, not a contract. And I don’t say that to sound heavy, I say it because I reverence what I am stepping into. This is not just a milestone… it is a new assignment and we truly want to honor it well.

The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:12 — “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” And that image has stayed with me through this whole season. Because the only reason I’m not overwhelmed by the weight of what’s ahead is that I know it’s not just the two of us. God is in this! He is truly the center! 

To You, Wherever You Are on This Journey…

Whether you are in courtship, in the waiting or still believing God for your person, I want you to know that this is my story and somewhere in it, I hope you see God. It’s not to boast in self but to boast in the God who truly is a matchmaker. 

So, don’t rush what He is writing…. Don’t shrink your standards to fill a void, and don’t let the noise of the culture talk you out of the beauty of what God has for you. I believe your season is coming and when it does, it will be worth every prayer you prayed in private.

 

Leave A Comment…

I want to hear from YOU! 🤍

If you are married – drop your best wedding day memory in the comments. The moment that stood out, the thing that made you laugh, cry or just stopped you in your tracks. I would absolutely love to read them as I count down to my own day!

If you are single or courting — share one thing you are looking forward to most about your future wedding day. Let’s dream together!!

A Note on Blessings 🤍

So many of you have asked about how you can bless us as we step into this new season — and honestly, the love and support have already meant so much. We do not take it for granted at all.

If you feel led to sow into this new chapter with us, you can bless us via: Zelle:crystalsdaye@gmail.com OR PayPal: paypal.me/dayelight

No matter how small it may be, it will be received with so much gratitude and appreciation. We are truly thankful for every single person who has been cheering us on through this journey💛

 

I love you and God loves you more ❤️

Thanks for reading 💛

Crystal

Feel free to email me: crystalsdaye@gmail.com