How We Met: When I stopped trying… God started writing

                                                                             

Listen, I knew when I announced my engagement on social media, I would get a lot of attention, but mannnn… the love has been overwhelming in the best way. I knew there were people praying and hoping for this moment for me, but to actually experience the outpouring of love, messages, prayers, excitement—it has truly meant so much to me. I don’t take it lightly at all!! 

So yes, we’ve officially picked our wedding date (this summer 🥹) and the planning has already begun because time is moving way too fast. My Instagram timeline is now filled with wedding content LOL!! And in real life, I’m balancing business, motherhood, marriage preparation and wedding planning all at once. Let me just say… it has not been the easiest.

I now fully understand why last year my consistent prayer was “God, grow my capacity,” because this season is stretching me in ways I didn’t even realize I needed. But I’m grateful, because I can see His hand in all of it.

If I’m being honest, in this current season, I don’t have ANY desire to write a new book or host events specifically around marriage or singleness. I do believe that will come at some point (because God is like that); but right now I just want to embrace this transition fully.

When I write, I want to share from a place of authenticity, not from a place of “I’ve arrived” but from a place of “I’m still growing and still figuring it out with God”.  So for now, my blogs will simply be that—real-time lessons and reflections for my single wives who are on this journey as well.

Now, before we jump into the story (because I know that’s why you’re really here 😂), let me take a quick moment to talk about something that is still very much active and important in my life—MY BUSINESS! Because while I may be in wedding mode, I am still deeply passionate about helping people birth their books and build income from their message.

CEO Mode Continues…

Through DayeLight Publishers, I work with three main types of people:

• First, those who have a book idea but feel stuck and don’t know where to start—I help them go from idea to a completed manuscript with clarity and confidence
• Second, I work with authors who have already written their book but feel overwhelmed by the publishing process—I guide them step-by-step from manuscript to a professionally published, bestselling book
• Third, I help those who already have a book but are not making money from it. These are the authors who are ready to shift from simply being writers to becoming Author CEOs—turning their message into consistent income through coaching, speaking and global branding. 

This work is not just business for me, it is a ministry. I truly believe that your story, your testimony, your message carries power—and when positioned correctly, it can impact lives while also creating income and opportunities you may not have imagined. So if you’ve been feeling that nudge to write, publish or monetize your book, consider this your sign. And if it’s not for you, share it with someone who has been sitting on their story. DayeLight Publishers is open and I will always make space for purpose-driven work God has called me to do!!  Visit our website – www.dayelightpublishers.com

Story Time

‘Alright… now let’s get into the story you’ve all been waiting on… (this will be a long blog) 

I recently completed my wedding website (which I’m honestly so excited about) and on there, we shared both his version and my version of how we met. I will eventually make the website public, but not just yet—because social media is a little wild these days and I’ve heard way too many stories of uninvited guests showing up at weddings 😂 So we’re not taking any chances. But don’t worry, for those of you who genuinely want to celebrate with us, I will be sharing a virtual option closer to the time.

But because you all are important to me, I wanted to share our story here—his version, my version and a little glimpse into our first date.

His Version (Mr. Tucker’s Words)

After a chance meeting online and many “hi” and “good mornings” exchanged, one night an actual conversation was sparked by a fed-up woman of God who needed some company while burning the midnight oil.

What followed was a million questions, each one deeper than the one before.

A little over a week later, I mustered up the courage to ask for her personal number and she reluctantly agreed. The next few days were filled with thoughtful conversations about life, faith and love.

Three days before a Category 5 Hurricane Melissa was expected to hit, she agreed to meet in person—making it clear we were meeting strictly as friends. I tried to make it memorable with non-alcoholic wine and even asked her for a dance, which turned out to be the most awkward dance in history.

Afterward, I was told we probably shouldn’t continue being friends because we didn’t feel aligned. I accepted it, nursed my ego and wished her well—only to receive a text the very next day. And since then, we have not stopped talking…. 

Soon after, she left the country for a little over a week, but we spoke every single day. When she returned, our connection had only grown stronger. She later invited me to her church. I agreed on one condition—that I would sit as far away from her as possible so I wouldn’t be distracted during worship. I ended up loving it and started attending weekly.

The turning point came when she invited me to a Christian singles conference. It impacted me deeply. By the end, I told her I was done dating casually—I would only court from that point forward and I would be honored to court her. She suggested we continue building our friendship.

Not long after, she told me she had brought my request before the Lord and, if I was still interested, she would grant it.

I planned our first official date—a picnic at Hope Gardens—where I formally asked her to court me. She said yes!! 

What confirmed it for me was her honesty and her obedience to the Lord. In a moment of deep integrity, she shared something personal and I knew then that she was the woman I wanted to spend my life with. Behind everything she does is a woman relentlessly pursuing God and every day with her, I remain in awe and deeply grateful.

My Version (Because… context matters 😂)

For years, I received prophetic words about marriage and after wondering year after year when my time would come, I eventually made a decision to just “chill” and trust God’s timing.

In 2025, my word for the year was audacity and somewhere deep down, I believed that I would meet my husband. But by July, I had let go of that expectation. Not from a place of hurt, but from a place of acceptance or annoyance (I’m not sure).

I had gone on a few dates, had a few conversations and I was honestly over it. Dating felt exhausting and I didn’t have the energy to keep trying to force something that didn’t feel aligned.

Then October came and I decided to rejoin the Bumble dating app. To this day, I’m not sure if it was boredom or just one last attempt, but I gave it another shot. I was talking to a few people casually, nothing serious, and then one night, I was messaging Mr. Tucker.  He had been consistent with his “good morning” texts and eventually I said, “Sir, please stop doing this daily good morning thing and actually have a conversation”. I think it was my frankness that attracted him because from that night forward, we never stopped talking.

I have dated A LOT!! But something about Mr. Tucker stood out from our first conversation. We just always enjoyed talking to each other. He loves to write as I do and that’s one of the reasons the app suggested us to connect. Of course, initially, I honestly wasn’t thinking about dating him because I did have choices LOL (and he did too)!!

All I can say with Omar, things just seemed to align effortlessly. From the first time we met to our first date to the hours of texting and phone conversations. The best way I could describe it.. He is the One GOD Kept for me:-)

Mr. Tucker had to pass lots of tests.  I had a strong circle of people around me who asked hard questions and honestly, I needed that because I didn’t fully trust my own judgment when it came to relationships. He embraced every question with grace, humility and sincerity, and over time, he didn’t just win me over—he won them over too.

The best way I can describe our relationship is this—my heart feels safe and that is something I had never experienced before. 

Our First Date

In November 2025, we attended the Be One Flesh conference hosted by our marriage mentors, Pastor Tania and Errington Case. That experience shifted both of us significantly. We realized that although we were believers, we had not fully surrendered our dating lives to God. We were still approaching relationships from a worldly perspective rather than truly allowing God to lead.

That moment led us both to repentance and a conscious decision to trust God as our matchmaker. It was no longer about choosing based on preference alone, but about following His direction, even if it looked different from what we expected.

Not long after that, we both sensed that God was leading us toward each other. And true to who he is, Mr. Tucker planned a beautiful picnic at Hope Gardens for our first official date. He took the time to create an experience that felt so thoughtful and beautiful- from the setup to the food to the overall atmosphere.

We spent time praying, playing games, doing a devotional, talking and simply enjoying each other’s presence. I even surprised him with his favorite food—red herring—which he still jokes that was how I ‘tied’ him. 

It was during that date that he formally asked me to court him and I said yes. That moment marked the beginning of something that felt both grounded and God-led and it remains one of the most special memories of our journey.

What Stood Out 

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that when you stop forcing things and truly surrender your desires to God, He has a way of aligning things in a way you could never orchestrate on your own. I also learned that peace is far more valuable than emotional highs. What I experienced with Mr. Tucker wasn’t confusion or inconsistency—it was clarity, peace and a steady sense of assurance that he knew what he wanted from the beginning. 

Another important lesson is that character matters far more than chemistry (I have a blog to talk about this soon).  While attraction and connection are important, it is a person’s values and relationship with God that sustains a relationship long-term.

Reflect On This 

Have you ever found yourself trying to force something to work, even when it didn’t feel right? What would it look like for you to truly trust God with your love story and release the need to control the outcome?

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