What you believe about yourself will define your reality!
It has been a marathon trying to live my best life and I would not change it for anything. Has it been easy, Oh no. There were some experiences that tried to hold me back from reaching my full potential. I even thought that they defined who I am. What am I talking about?
It is those negative life events. Negative events or trauma have a way of affecting our brain substantially and can have lifelong impact on our mental health and our mindset.
Trauma, whether it is repeated or occasional, can make one live in fear. This fear continues even after one becomes safe, and it will cause limitations in life. Also, one’s upbringing can play a big role in what one believes. Sometimes it’s the predefined ideas about certain things or the feeling that things have to happen in a certain way thus creating barriers that prevent us from getting the most out of life.
If you are saying to yourself, “I can’t do this,” or “Nobody likes me,” or “I can’t trust anyone,” then you are imposing restrictions on yourselves. The more you tell yourself these things, the more they become a part of our cognitive function.
Time to redefine our story and it starts with neuroplasticity. Our brain is neuroplastic, which simply means it can change and take on a new structure. It does not do this automatically but with time you can alter your thinking.
Here is an example, instead of telling yourself daily that you are a failure, you can tell yourself that you are taking steps toward being your best self.
It’s a small change, and you aren’t denying that you have failed in the past, but you are taking control of your future. You are deciding to take actionable steps to be your best version.
Imagine doing this with every negative thought about yourself. What great things will you be able to achieve?
This will improve your mental health, too. When you believe in yourself and take action to make your dreams come true, you are altering your response to negative events.
It is also about intentional thinking. Take a couple of deep breaths daily. Think of a recent event where you had immensely positive feelings. Immerse yourself in the memory so that you can feel the full power of the emotion. Stay in the moment for several minutes until you feel that the positivity of the event increases your emotional energy. Resolve to carry this optimism with you for the rest of the day.
La-Toya Cameron-Hill is a Christian, a wife, a mother, an entrepreneur, and a motivational speaker. She is also a trained Social Worker, Counsellor, and Transformational Coach with several years of experience working with a diverse population. Gifted with the ability to connect deeply with people from all walks of life; her courage and determination have inspired individuals locally and internationally to help them discover their untapped potential. Mrs. Hill cares deeply for the advocacy of women and children and desires to see them grow in understanding of who they are in Christ.
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